When it comes time to multiply, I will undoubtedly be one of those high-expectation-tiger-mother. After spending the weekend with children, I am determined not tolerate some behaviors. I look at one house, run by the children, then reflect on how the new generation in my family is being brought up. Sure, they might not be the best eaters, but at least they listen, don't interrupt, and don't whine. It's because the repercussion of acting out is rewarded with little pity and the hot slap of an open palm.
I see mothers yelling then just as quickly giving up as their children ignore them and do as they were. It disgust me. I think parents are to blame for their shitty kids. They act as they please because there is no harsh consequences to face. So what if they get grounded - is that really so bad? They get to go to their rooms and play with all the toys they've been previously rewarded with. I only wished my parents punished me that way as a child. Punishment for me was real, it was painful, and it tested a child's endurance.
The difference of East and West is this idea of where the individual lies. Everyone has a place in a life, there is always going to be someone higher in ranks as well as those under your direction. Where ever you are in the hierarchy you have a responsibility to respect those above you and guide those younger than you. This is how a large family operates as a unit. We're not born into this world alone, so we must never think about only ourselves selfishly.
I feel like I've done my job satisfactorily. I've taken care of my parents as much as I can; I take them to doctors, give them money every month. I've also adopted the role of guardian to my younger siblings; going to parent teacher conferences, principles office. I feel like this is my duty to make sure my whole family does well. The bottom line is, the more of us that are successful, the more comfortable of a retirement my parents will have and the responsibility of caring for them will be shared.
On another note, I also have little respect for people who raise bad dogs.
